“You’re good with your hands” my parents told me when I was a young boy… “and your brother’s the intelligent one”. What this spelt out to me was that I was thick!
Psychologist, Laurel Sheaf explains “Early in life, we might feel judged or compare ourselves to others and think we come up short. To compensate, we figure out strategies to address whatever we think of as missing. Those early decisions become far-reaching declarations that set the stage for our whole future.”
This certainly rang true for me – not being up to the mark intellectually ran the show well into my 30s, regardless of what people said to the contrary.
This is such a common experience that there is a name for it, “imposter syndrome”. This toxic condition of low self-esteem becomes an explosive mixture in organisations when managers feel a need to cover up their perceived shortcomings in case people “find out who they really are!” This often leads to dictatorial and defensive managerial behaviours. This is an example of what Prof Carol Dweck calls a fixed mindset, where we believe that who we are is an immutable truth. Liz Wiseman, a former Oracle executive calls these types of managers diminishers. Diminishers blame others for failure whilst attributing successes to their own talent.
Who am I?
In biological terms, who we are is represented by a network of 86 billion neurons in our brain. These neuronal connections are who we are – or more correctly, who we have created ourselves to be through a lifetime’s experiences.
Thanks to fMRI imaging and neuroscience research, we now know that the brain is plastic and we can create new neuronal patterns and quite literally re-structure our brain. We are not prisoners of those early decisions we made about who we are.
Foundations for a growth mindset
Neuroplasticity lays the foundations for what Dweck terms a growth mindset – the recognition that we are all able to grow and change substantially, acquiring new skills and thinking patterns as we go through life. We can throw off the shackles of past limiting beliefs and create new futures for ourselves… to be more like Richard Branson, or any other role model we aspire to.
Limiting beliefs typically take the form of “I don’t have a musical bone in my body”, “I’m not the creative type”, “I’m no good at sales”. Or even more pernicious, “I’m not a very nice person.” Self-awareness of strengths and limitations is healthy, however, when we let this impede our growth, our ambitions and self-image it becomes toxic.
Debunking limiting beliefs
Limiting beliefs of course seem very real. But their only reality is that of neuronal patterns (or mental events) generated by our brain. They have no more validity than this old picture of me with Richard Branson. It appears real, but I am actually posing with Richard’s wax doppelganger at Madame Tussauds!
In Sheaf’s words “In seeing ourselves as authors of these [flawed] interpretations, we come into the immense freedom of a whole new domain—the domain of possibility.”
Our Mindset Coaching helps people understand neuroplasticity as the route to dismantling faulty self-perception and limiting beliefs. Liz Wiseman’s research shows that when managers adopt a growth mindset, they can double the productivity of their team!
Are you locked in the same unhealthy thinking patterns?
Changing your mindset will transform your life. We would be delighted to talk through how our mindset coaching can help you and your team embrace change and positivity.
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